Erectile Dysfunction -//- Premature Ejaculation -//- Delayed/No Ejaculation -//- Low Libido

Erectile dysfunction used to be thought of as an issue only for older men and something that was generally fixed by the little blue pill (Viagra). 

In recent years there has been a huge rise in erectile dysfunction (ED) in the under 40s. It has become such an issue that the medical profession has even coined the term 'Millennial ED'.  

The issue with taking Viagra is that it has several side effects (headaches, high blood pressure etc). Plus, it means that you always have to plan when you're going to have sex, as it takes 30 minutes to an hour to start working. That's if it works, as our mind can still override Viagra sadly and stop it working.

Some men find it difficult to get hard when they are with sexual partners, and other men get hard, but later lose their erection, which may or may not come back during sex. 

There are several common reasons for erectile dysfunction: 

• General performance anxiety
• Reliance on porn 
• Previous damaging sexual experiences
• Low self-esteem/confidence issues 
• Prescription medication
• Condom-triggered ED (losing your erection when you put on a condom)

Important: if you can get and keep an erection when you are on your alone - in the morning perhaps, masturbating (with or without porn) - then the issue is most likely in your mind - which is where I can help.

If you can't, it's more likely a physiological issue and I would visit your GP (not a bad idea to do that either way and check all your systems are working okay). 

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Erectile Dysfunction -//- Premature Ejaculation -//- Delayed/No Ejaculation -//- Low Libido

1 in 3 men suffers from premature ejaculation, though most never talk about it and just settle for quick, often awkward sex. 

The odd thing is that cumming quickly is man's default state. When we evolved all those thousands of years ago we were not the dominant species on the planet. This meant that we had to have sex very quickly, usually in caves, out the way of larger predators. 

With this in mind, it's not surprising that so many men cum quickly. 

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Erectile Dysfunction -//- Premature Ejaculation -//- Delayed/No Ejaculation -//- Low Libido

This is an issue that I'm seeing with client's more and more; men who are struggling to cum. They either do not cum at all or find it a challenge. 

This is generally due to one of two reasons:

• Porn - usually when someone flicks from scene to scene
• Desensitising of your dick over time

Our subconscious, the more powerful part of our brain, is programmed by our conscious. If you watch porn and swap from scene to scene our subconscious gets the idea that what really turns us on is lots of fast-paced sex. When we have one person in front of us, who doesn't change every 30 seconds, our subconscious gets confused and it's hard to push to the point where we cum. (I explain a lot more about how this works in our sessions).

Or, imagine rubbing a point on the back of your hand, over and over, sometimes several times a day, for perhaps 20 years. Do you think you'd feel much in that part of your hand? The same goes for our cocks, play with them enough and they can start to lose feeling. 

To have a friendly, confidential chat or to book a session please Email, call/text/whatsapp 07305 507124

Erectile Dysfunction -//- Premature Ejaculation -//- Delayed/No Ejaculation -//- Low Libido

I have many clients who feel like they 'should' be having lots of sex but they really cannot be bothered. Or they feel like they used to want sex all the time, and again, they are just in no mood. 

Perhaps this is with a partner, or just in general, either way, these issues can leave us feeling down or even depressed. 

There are several reasons that can lead to low libido including:

• Low testosterone - for various reasons - lack of Vitamin D, weight issues, medication, depression, lack of exercise... and many others
• Social comparison - dating apps, social media, TV gives the impression that everyone is having loads of sex  
• Unrealistic expectations - at 20 you might have wanted lots of sex, but at 40 perhaps you might think you do, but actually, you've had a fair amount of it over the years and might want to do something else instead which leaves you feeling at odds
• Confidence/self esteem issues  
• You get validation through sex, which can lead to disappointments if you feel you're not having/wanting sex  

Plus, many other reasons, that we can talk about during therapy. 

To have a friendly, confidential chat or to book a session please Email, call/text/whatsapp 07305 507124

Erectile Dysfunction -//- Premature Ejaculation -//- Delayed/No Ejaculation -//- Low Libido